Picture a black dot in your mind. Nobody notices the white background.
How many of you would have agreed with me that positive thinking is just one of the most difficult things to do?
There are tons of books on positive thinking. Each and every one of them is describing the benefits of positive thinking with great details. Some even come with real life examples.
Despite the wonderful benefits of thinking positively, why do we still find it hard to apply it in our life? Will you be able to smile and still think positively in adverse situations ? You can do it but it will require your strongest willpower just to create that glimpse of smile.
My Theory On Why It’s That Difficult
I personally believe that we have been trained to make positive thinking difficult since we were children.
Remember when we first learnt the ABCs? We were first taught the 26 alphabets and when we were able to read, we were asked to focus on the 26 alphabets on the books and nothing else. We were never encouraged to describe the white color of the page, and we were usually scolded if we use the book for things other than reading. Do you know that books can be used as cartoon animator? or an emergency fan?
For the record, I have no objection with the methodology of teaching. Children at that age can easily be distracted and allowing them to play with books without any serious attempt to make them read can lead to a sudden jump in illiteracy worldwide.
Unfortunately, the methodologies had indirectly made us more close minded. A book will always be a book to us.
An Accident Is NOT Just An Accident
This is how it affects us now. Take a car accident for example. For most of us, a car accident is just a car accident. While in fact it is so much more than that.
- It is a reminder for you to be more careful next time.
- It is a chance for you to finally learn how to claim for insurance.
- It is a boost in confidence in driving if you manage to avoid the accident.
- It is an experience that you can boast to your grandchildren.
- It’s your chance to practice your emergency response skills like evasive driving.
- You may have saved someone’s life.
- You can finally learn the true value of life.
In short, we just need to learn how to see a book as something else besides for reading. Isn’t that what positive thinking really is? Looking at things from a different and positive view.
Personal Development Is Actually Simple
The truth is, we are practising personal development almost every second of our life without even knowing it. Yes, it’s true. Take being thirsty for an example. We will immediately know that we need water. The whole process of recognizing the need of water, the walk to the fridge and the drinking is personal development. We are now no longer thirsty and that is the goal.
Just look around you. Everything you do will consist of the 3 elements of personal development. You identify what you want, you figure out how to get it and you go get it. Don’t you think the word “personal development” now feels a lot lighter a topic?
Just like a man lost in the jungle. He will be just fine if he has a destination in mind, a map to guide him and the will to walk. These are the 3 basic elements of personal development:
1) Goals – Know what you want to achieve.
2) Methodology – Know exactly how to achieve it.
3) Do it – The action without which everything else is just daydreaming.
Just memorize these 3 elements and nothing will be impossible to you.